Skateboarding and Life

When I was a kid and through my teenage years and early 20’s I loved skateboarding (still do).  I use to say that it was a way of life.  A way of life that was mine.  I once got paid $500.00 by my grandmother to spend some time with my great grandmother while my grandmother went out of town.  I think I was 16 at the time.  I spent every last penny at Cheapskates, the local skate shop in Memphis.  I bought clothes, shoes, decks, wheels, stickers, sex wax, all kinds of stuff.  It’s a memory that I’ll carry with me forever.  I was happy and I didn’t care what anyone else thought.  Every once in awhile I will come across a senior picture I took in high school. and I’m wearing a shirt that I bought that day with my $500.00.  I immediately think back to that day that I’ll never forget and smile.  Those were fun days.  We did whatever we wanted.  We had a car, skateboards, and a very small amount of cash.  Who could stop us?  As long as we (sort of) told our parents where we were, we were good.

There were 3 of us, me, Phillip and Todd.  Sometimes my friend Matt’s little brother Sam would tag along with us.  We liked to call him “little guy” because he was younger.  These were some of the coolest guys.  Some of the best friends I have ever had in my life.  We went to a Southern Baptist High School, and since we liked long hair, skateboards and rock music just about everyone thought we were “on drugs.”  We really weren’t.  The worst thing we probably did was piss off some security guard somewhere or damage some property with a skateboard.  There was one time where we picked up our friend Lesley and she tossed her Doc Martins out of her upstairs window so her parents wouldn’t know she was going to change into them.  Also, we probably were never where we told our parents we were.  Hell, we didn’t know where we were going half the time.  We just went.  We would go to a spot and skate, and move on to another spot.  Anyway, the point is, we were having fun.  Doing only what we wanted.  

I’m telling you all of this because it meant a lot to me and it still means a lot to me.  I recently picked skateboarding back up at the age of 40.  It had been almost 20 years since I had even stood on a skateboard.  Do you have any idea how odd it is for a suburban Dad in the South to all the sudden bust out of the door with a skateboard? I do and I’m glad I did.  I’ve learned a lot in the last few months from picking it back up.

Skateboarding is not easy.  Life is not easy.  You fall down and it hurts.  You get back up and do it again.  You fall down again and it hurts worse.  You get back up and do it again.  When you are 40 years old and you fall down, it hurts like a !@#$% but you still get back up and try again.  The thing is, it’s ok.  You know you’re going to fall down, but you’re doing something that you love so you’re just gonna give it another go.  The important thing is that you are doing something that you love to do and that makes you happy.

Find those things that you love and do them.  Don’t do anything else.  If you find yourself doing something that makes you miserable, figure out how to get away from it.  Do what you want to do.  You CAN do it.  It can be really hard sometimes, but at the very least start making note of things that you catch yourself loving.  Start making note of times when you are miserable.  Try to figure out how you can do more of the things you could do for hours on end and less of the things that make you unhappy.  If you are in a place where you just don’t know what you like, I recommend getting a skateboard and just cruising around on it.  It feels really good and will give you some time to think about what things you want to be doing….You may not always know where you are going, but just go.

 

Skateboarding and Life

JLA: Rock of Ages

IMG_0415I just finished the (Justice League) JLA:  Rock of Ages by DC Comics on the suggestion of a good friend of mine after watching Batman v. Superman.  There was a lot of it that I just did not understand, but overall it was absolutely amazing.  I am going to have to go back and reread it to try to get more understanding of what was going on.  The timeline was a little hard for me to follow since this was my first real comic book reading and I do not really have any knowledge of the character history and such outside of movies and/or TV shows.

 

There were a lot of things that peaked my interest as I read this book. The biggest thing was probably the writing of Grant Morrison.  I’m guessing that is the reason the book was a little hard for me to keep up with.  I think Morrison is famous for his “nonlinear narratives” (according to wikipedia anyway).  I wasn’t ready for the “out of the box” ideas that are inside this book, and it kind of took me by surprise.  This is nothing like a superhero movie you would go watch at the theater.  It’s pretty heavy.  You are forced to think about other dimensions, time travel, other universes, worlds, and much much more. Things that we don’t normally think about on a regular basis.  Even if it’s just imagination it’s REALLY fun to think about and read about.  So much so that some pages take 2 or 3 times to read over before you really get what is going on and will most likely require a couple more reads to really grasp it.  Most of us have a preconceived idea that comics are for kids or something that adults wouldn’t be into.  This couldn’t be more wrong.  There is a lot of stuff in this book that requires you to keep your brain sharp just to keep up.  There are also a lot of ideas and things that are really cool to think about and keep your imagination satisfied.  Now that I think about it, kids would probably understand it way more than adults because their not limited by all the filters we have on our thoughts and selves.  

 

The characters are WAY cooler in the book than they are in the movies.  Superman is WAY more powerful and awesome in the book.   I think we saw a little bit more of that in Batman v. Superman but WOAH!  Superman is way more powerful than anyone, like myself, who’s just seen him in movies knows.  Also, the relationship between Lex Luthor and Superman is obviously not what we think of it as (ie: Villian vs. Superhero). There’s apparently much more to it, but I’m not going to  give away anything here to spoil it for you.  Batman is bad ass!  He doesn’t do a whole lot really in this book, but the book does give you an insight into just how smart and awesome Batman/Bruce Wayne is.  I think Afleck is actually the best one to portray the character now that I’ve read this book.  Wonder Woman is something that you’ve never seen before if you’ve just watched the TV show or whatever.  Every time I think of Wonder Woman I think of a cheesy 70’s TV episode where she’s blocking bullets with her bracelets.  SO way off base.  Wonder Woman is amazing.  There are so many awesome characters in this book.  New villians I had never heard of like Darkseid and Dasaad.  Other characters like Hourman, Metron, and a whole bunch of others were just way cool to discover.  

 

Anyway, I can’t wait until another Justice League movie comes out.  I’m going to have a much better understanding of the characters and story next time.  I’m also going to read this book again to try to understand a little more.  You should definitely check it out if you haven’t ever read any of the comics and love the superhero movies.  That’s a no brainer.  

JLA: Rock of Ages

Falling Down and Getting Up

I walked out into my garage last night and tripped over something.  I fell hard on the concrete and it hurt.  In that moment it occurred to me that if you want to be successful you have to be able to take big risks.  You can’t be afraid of falling.  You are going to fall hard and you are going to fall often.  In the past my fear of falling has put limits on what I want to do.  What do we learn from skateboarding?  Fall hard, fall hard, fall hard, fall hard, fall hard….get back up and try again.  You might eventually make the trick you are after.  You might not.  You’ll learn something from it though.  So…go full speed and give it everything you’ve got.  Don’t be afraid of falling.  I think this lesson is going to be good for me not just with skateboarding but everywhere else in my life.

Falling Down and Getting Up

Be a Hero

beaheroMy friend and Barbell Shrugged teammate Chris Norman aka “CTP” has had this slogan for a while, “Reign Supreme.”  I have always thought that was super cool. It seems like something one could use as a measuring stick or filter for everything that they do.  If at any moment you wonder if you should be doing what you are doing you could simply ask yourself if this thing is in alignment with your motto.  For example, “Does this seem like I’m Reigning Supreme?”   Anyway, ever since I first saw the “Reign Supreme” slogan appear on merchandise or graphics on the website I knew I wanted something like that of my own that I could use to keep my own behavior and decisions in check.

Whenever I have downtime I like listening to podcasts.  I was encouraged by my friend AJ Roberts to listen to a couple of episodes of a podcast called 10x Talk.  A couple of weeks ago I was out mowing my lawn and decided to listen to this one episode of 10x Talk called “The 3 Pillars of Confidence.”  Around 38:30 in that podcast is where I really started to pay attention and I got really excited.  Dan Sullivan starts talking about this concept of picking “who you want to be a hero to.”  You really need to listen to this podcast but here are a couple of quotes that really got me thinking:

Align your great activities with a type of individual that you truly and always want to be a hero to.

My only commitments in life are to people that I actually want to be a hero to.

just want to see these individuals do well and want to contribute as much as I can to make them more capable to create the life they want for themselves

Don’t think of this “hero” thing as an ego trip like “I’m awesome, look at me,” but rather how can I do EVERYTHING I can to help this person.  How can I use everything I am good at to help this person or particular group of people get where they want to be?  In a sense, be a hero to them in every way that you can.

I literally stopped mowing the lawn at this point in the podcast and just stood there thinking.  Standing in my front yard with my lawnmower, sweating like crazy I had an epiphany.  In some ways I felt bad because at this moment I realized that there were a lot of people that I wasn’t doing everything I could for, that I was short changing in a way.  I wasn’t being a hero.  I was just doing the minimum or just “getting the job done.”  This was unacceptable.

I found my slogan, my own “Reign Supreme.” It was, Be a Hero.  As I thought about this, it worked in every scenario.  With my Family, my gym, my Barbell Shrugged team.  I found that everything I was doing I could ask myself, “are you being a hero?” In any situation, am I doing everything that I can to help this person or this team get to where they want to be?  Am I doing everything I can to make sure that I am “present” with my Family?  Wow, I have to tell you that I immediately thought of a lot of failures and things I needed to get better at.

So I made a list.  A list of people and/or groups of people that I really want to be a hero to.  Dan talks about in the podcast that sometimes people will tell you that you are obligated to do something for them, and it’s ok to tell them that you aren’t obligated to help them or that you aren’t going to help them.  Basically, it’s ok to say no.

I’m not going to share my whole list with you but it includes my Family, my Olive Branch CrossFit team, Barbell Shrugged team, and a handful of other people that I care a lot about and want to help.  That “handful of other people” seems to be turning into a certain “group” of people but I haven’t really nailed it down just yet.  I will soon though and I’ll share with you when I do.

Anyway, I encourage you to start asking yourself if you are being a hero.  In every situation.  Are you giving everything you possibly can in every moment?  I promise you’ll fail, as I have, but you will now be more aware that you are not giving the moment or that particular person everything you have. It’s ok if you fail the test as long as you realize you’re failing it and try to fix it.

Be A Hero!

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Be a Hero

The Gap

Do you sometimes find yourself worrying or stressing out over where you want to be and where you are right now?  I know I do.  If you’re like me,  you can sometimes feel like where you want to be is so far away from where you are now that you will never be able to get there. Maybe you want to open a business or maybe you want to make a certain amount of money. Maybe right now your goals seem so far out of reach that you won’t ever be able to achieve them.  Your goals will always shift and they will always be out there in the future.  They may sometimes or always seem unreachable.  I learned an awesome exercise from my friend AJ Roberts that can really help you change your mindset and will help you learn how to really get your head in the right place so that you aren’t focusing on all of the things you haven’t achieved yet.

Enter “The Gap”

The gap is that space between where you are right now and where you want to be.  If we focus on that gap it can be bad for us.  We need to think more about what we have accomplished.  What are our “wins?”  Just how far have we come?  This exercise will help you think more positively about yourself and your goals. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have right now, this exercise helps you see all of the great things you have done to get you where you are right now. This in turn will help you think positively about the future and instead of worrying or stressing out about it you can can be excited about all of the incredible things that are going to happen over the coming days, months and years. 

Here is an example of how this works.  Where were you 3 years ago?  Write it down. Everything about what was going on for you 3 years ago. Were you working? Making money? Where did you live? Write everything down. Take a minute and think about all of the things you write down. 

Now write down where you are today. Same stuff. What’s changed?  What things are better?  Take a minute and think about all of the progress you have made in the last three years. Think about all of the lessons you have learned and how much of a better person you are now than you were then. 

Now instead of thinking about how far away you are from where you want to be, focus instead on all of the things you have accomplished and all of the things you are going to accomplish in the next three years. Think about yourself in three years sitting down to work through this exercise again. Think about how much progress you will have made in that time.  

It doesn’t have to be 3 years though.  It can be 5 years, 1 year, 6 months or even one day.  There is a really cool app that I found called WinStreak.  Every day it will ask you “What were your wins today?”

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Every day I can put in my wins for the day and add in things that I want to win at tomorrow.  This helps me focus on the positive things that I’m getting done and not the things I am not getting done or things that I can’t do right now.  Anyway, this is a very simple, yet powerful exercise that can really help out a lot.  Especially if you are one who is struggling with feeling positive about where you are going in life and where you want to be.

Bonus: Check out this video of Dan Sullivan talking about the 3 wins:

The Gap

The Ocean…

“You don’t have to stray
The oceans away
Waves roll in my thoughts
Hold tight the ring…
The sea will rise…
Please stand by the shore…”

What is it about the ocean?  The last few months, for me, have been absolutely insane.  Life changing.  I’ve been stressed.  I’ve been worried.  I’m not going to lie, the last few months have been tough!  My awesome Wife has been talking about a trip to the beach for a while now.  Honestly, I never thought I’d go. I thought maybe I’d just let the family go and stay home and work.  I gotta tell you, that would have been a bad decision.

We got to the condo, and my son wanted to go right to the beach.  I went with him.  I sat down and watched him swim in the ocean.  An immediate calm came over me.  I realized that I needed to be on this trip.  I needed to hear the waves crashing on the beach. Sitting there watching my Son play in the ocean, I couldn’t have a negative thought.  There could be no negative thoughts.  None of the things that bother me or that I worry about every day mattered.  Nothing mattered except us, here, playing in the ocean and having a great time.  I’m so glad I’m here.

I’m not sure what the lesson is here other than make sure you take time for yourself and your family and enjoy nature.  I’ve gotten a ton of work done since we’ve been here too.  I’m totally inspired by the ocean.  I’ve decided I need to make a trip to some coast somewhere every Month. 🙂  One day maybe I can own a place near the ocean.

The Ocean…

How To Use Email To Be More Productive

communicationA couple of months ago a friend of mine told me about a way he manages his inbox that he called “Inbox Zero.”  This really grabbed my attention because my email inbox was full with thousands and thousands of emails.  Some read, some not read, and lots of junk.  When I visualized a completely empty inbox it was a little like daydreaming about winning the lottery.  Something that would be really nice, but it was just never going to happen.  However, here I sit writing this article and I’ve had an empty inbox for over a month now.  I check email only two times per day and end every day with an empty inbox.  I am going to show you exactly how I do it and how I made this happen.

Let me start by telling you about my old way of “doing email.”  First, I never deleted anything out of my inbox and I constantly checked my email.  If something came into my inbox and someone was requesting something from me I would immediately respond or start working on what they wanted me to do (<—psst that’s a key point).  For years I took pride in the fact that I was “always available” and would answer emails so quickly.  I let my inbox drive my day and decide what I was going to work on.  I basically let everyone else decide what I was going to work on and how I was going to spend my time.  Over the years, this method led to what I have come to call the “Shotgun Method” of working.  That is, multi-tasking on overdrive,  working on many things at once and never spending large, focused chunks of time on any one task.  Once I started working on managing my own time and really focusing on what needed to get done vs. what other people wanted me to get done this “Shotgun Method” of getting things done had to change.  This is why the “Inbox Zero” idea appealed so much to me.  It was the beginning of a more productive and organized life.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have everything figured out.  I’m still working really hard on time management and productivity, but having an empty inbox every day is making that much easier.

I have been going through a program called “Wake Up Productive” that was built by a guy named Eben Pagan.  I could get off on a really big tangent here, but to make a LONG story short between the Wake Up Productive program and listening to and reading a lot of Tim Ferriss podcasts and articles I made a couple of decisions:

  • I would empty my inbox every day
  • I would only check email twice per day (and NOT first thing in the morning)

By doing these two things it would set me up to be in control of my time and what I did with it.  I could now sit down in the morning and decide exactly what I was going to get done that day.  I wouldn’t be driven by what happened to land in my inbox at that moment.  Again, I could get off on a really big tangent here and if anyone is interested I could write another article just on this topic.  The important thing to know here is that shifting the way I do email is key to getting control of my day and my life to be perfectly honest.

Most of the emails that we get are not urgent.  They do not have to be done immediately.  Sometimes the people sending those emails think they should be done immediately, but that’s their problem not ours.  This is an important mindset for you to have going into this new way of doing email.  Let’s be honest with ourselves though.  There are times that people are going to need you to do something immediately.  Urgent tasks do come up.  For me, anyone with such a task for me has my phone number and will send me a text message.  I will check my email at Noon and 4 P.M.  Watch the video below to see how I go about doing this.  There are a couple of things you need to do before getting started though.

Use Gmail

If you aren’t using gmail, and it’s possible to switch to gmail I highly recommend it.  I’m sure you could figure out how to adapt these “Inbox Zero” methods with another email system, but gmail is the best in my opinion.  So get with it!  If you own a company with a team of people then Google Apps is a great option as well.

Turn On Keyboard Shortcuts in Gmail

Follow this link to see how this is done——>All about gmail keyboard shortcuts.  This is an awesome little feature that I never knew about until I started doing this.  I’m sure there is something comparable in Outlook or whatever email app you might be using.  You may have to just do a little research and figure a workaround if gmail isn’t an option for you.

Without further ado, here’s what my email checking process looks like:

Other Helpful Resources:

 

How To Use Email To Be More Productive

Happy New Year!

von20152015 is here.  This has been and will most likely always be one of the most important years of my life.  I have had so many great learning experiences and learned so much about myself in the last year.  I have tried to start new businesses, seen success in some things and lots of failures in other things.  I have experienced frustration, anxiety, excitement, happiness and a whole host of other emotions.  So many people have helped me and made me smile.  Some have really frustrated me.  I have listened to audiobooks, sought advice from mentors, listened to that advice, taken online courses, and absorbed all kinds of other knowledge bombs.  I have watched my kids grow.  My son learned how to tie his shoes.  My youngest daughter is learning how to put words together, and my oldest daughter has been killing it in the gym.  Most of all, my awesome wife has supported me in all of these experiences.  I am an extremely lucky individual.

I am imagining myself reading this post about a year and a half ago.  Sitting in my leather chair at my 9-5/corporate job, poking around on reddit, monitoring servers, and waiting for 4pm to roll around so I could go home.  Waiting for the next payday so I could get that big paycheck.  Big paychecks are cool.  Security.  I wish that somehow I could go have a meeting with that guy sitting in that chair.  Go back in time.  Give him advice, and tell him what to do.  Tell him to get off his ass and go do what he loves to do, or rather, figure out what he loves to do.  Tell him that in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter if the HR lady likes him or not.  Tell him that he is awesome and that he can do anything he wants.  Tell him to be more confident.  Tell him that he really does know what he’s doing.  Tell him to get busy living or get busy dying.  Tell him that it’s going to be hard but it’s going to be worth it.  Tell him that there will be times that he just doesn’t think anything is going to work out.  There will be times that he doesn’t have any money.  There will be times that he is surprised that some people didn’t approve of him.  It’s going to be hard but it’s going to be worth it.  It might take a year, it might take two years, it might take another five years, but we’ll figure it out.  We’ll be who we are and we will love us.  We will enjoy our life and only do things that we want to do.  Things that make us happy.  Things that help other people.

When you plant a seed, you don’t wake up the next day and have a tree.  If you’re like me back a couple of years ago, sitting at your job trying to please everyone and make someone else money, you aren’t going to get rich tomorrow.  It’s going to take time.  You have to plant seeds and let them grow.  It’s going to suck at times, but it’s going to be super rewarding at other times.  It is not going to be easy.  There is no magic pill and there is no magic email subject line that will sell your product to a million people overnight.  You have to hustle.  You have to grind.  In the end we will win because we are doing what we love.  I feel like during 2014 I have planted some of the best seeds that could have ever been planted.  I’ve failed big time on a few occasions, but I’ve won on even more occasions.  I am an extremely lucky individual.

I go into 2015 with no resolutions.  I don’t need them.  I am more aware now of all of my faults, problems, and fears than anyone else.  I know what I need to do to fix them.  I know that I don’t need to worry about not knowing something or not being the best.  I have the people in my life to help me get where I want to be, to inspire me to be great, to teach me, and to help me learn to be a better person.  2015 is going to be the best year ever.  Time to get busy living!  Let’s do this.

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Happy New Year!

The Filter

filter-xxlMy friend Christian runs a blog called The Maverick CEO.  A couple of weeks ago he did a podcast that I really loved with a girl named Debra Trappen.  When I clicked through to her website I ended up finding something REALLY cool that I have found very useful to me when making decisions in business and in life.  If you go to the D11 Consulting website you’ll see the option to enter your email and get a “Define Your Core Values” worksheet.

The idea is that if everything you do is aligned with your “core values” then you will be a much happier person.  It makes absolutely no sense to spend time on anything that you don’t really believe in or are not passionate about.  You only live once, and there is no reason to be doing things that you don’t want to be doing or things that don’t help you get to where you want to be.

So the worksheet is basically a giant checklist with a bunch of words on it.  You check off the things that you care about or the things that are important to you.  Once you’ve checked off all of the things you care about, you start to narrow down to just 10 words.  Once you’ve narrowed it down, you have your 10 core values.

I need to insert a caveat here.  I think I may have used the worksheet a little bit different than it was intended.  I immediately eliminated words like “family” and “spirituality.”  Those words, for me, are a given. Every decision I make is really to better not only myself, but my family.  So I focused on building a list of key words that I could use as a filter for making decisions in my life going forward because I was/am struggling with doing way too many things and saying “yes” to everything that anyone asks me.

Anyway, I came up with my list, and I would like to share it with you.  Once I figured it out I felt so much more confident in what I was doing.  I made an image for my phone’s screen saver and every time I look at my phone I see these words.  Every time I find myself having to make a decision I refer to this list.  If the decision I have to make does not help or enhance any of these areas of my life in any way then I say no. Check this out:

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These are not in any kind of order of importance or anything like that.  They are just words that I can use as filters when making decisions.  Here’s the run down:

Passion

Am I passionate about what’s being asked of me?  If not then it’s an immediate no. If you need to get your idea, product or business online I am game.  If you have a fitness goal that you really want to make happen I can help you.  If you want to run your first marathon or want to figure out how to sell your product online to your customers, I am all about it!  If you need someone to take out your garbage or teach you how to use Microsoft Outlook I’m not your guy.  I’ll say no unless you just REALLY want to pay me a lot of money to take out your garbage. 🙂

Coolness

Is it cool?  This is a tough one, but I can honestly say that every project I’m working on and every client that I have right now is cool.  I am not embarrassed by anything that I’m doing right now at all.  I’m not doing anything that I don’t enjoy just to make money.  Again, this is a tough one.  I’m gonna have to work hard on this one because if you offer me the right amount of money I might cave!

Creativity

Does this thing that is being asked of me allow me to be creative?   Am I challenged to come up with a solution or am I given freedom to try different things?  I am a somewhat creative person.  I’m not a great designer or artist, but I do have a musical background and I do love creating new things and expressing myself.  If what you are asking me to do is something new and creative or gives me a chance to think outside of the box or outside of outside of the box then I’ll say yes.

Excellence

Is what I’m doing better than everything else in it’s category?  Is it excellent?  If not, ditch it.  Say no.  I don’t want to do anything that isn’t awesome.

Excitement

Am I excited about this thing that I am doing?  If not, stop it.  Say no.  I don’t want to do anything that I’m not excited about.  It doesn’t help me or the person that asked me to do it.

Celebrity

Ok, this can be a tough one for some people to get their brain around.  If you run a business or you are trying to help people in some way then you are a celebrity whether you like it or not.  People watch you and watch the decisions you make and if you are doing what they want to do then they are going to copy you.  That’s awesome, but it can be hard.  You have to make sure that you are doing everything you can to represent yourself as the celebrity that you are.  Get yourself in newspaper articles, podcasts, blog posts, etc.  However, remember in your everyday life that you represent your brand.  People see what you do and associate that with everything that you endorse and promote.  This might be the hardest one of all.  Promote yourself and walk the walk.  Don’t just talk the talk.  Does what you are being asked to do help you promote your celebrity?  If not, maybe you should think twice.

Uniqueness

Simple.  Is this thing unique?  Is everyone else doing it?  Is nobody else doing it?  If not, do it.  Is you know a ton of people doing it then refer to the other filters. 🙂

Compassion

Do you/I care about the thing that we are being asked to do?  Do I have a skill that can help someone in need?  Do I see a situation where something that I can do can drastically improve someone else’s situation?  If we see a situation like this that we can help out in, then I believe that it is our duty as humans to help out.  If this is the case, then it’s a no brainer.  I’m here for anyone that really needs me or my services in that way.

Fitness

Not going to say much about this one as it’s obvious.  I love fitness and feel like taking care of yourself is the best thing you can do for you and your loved ones.

Sharing

Can I share something that I know with someone that doesn’t know?  This is huge!  If I have some skill or something that someone else needs to know for their own personal development I am sharing it with them.  Can I contribute to some open source project or can I help someone reach their own goals by sharing some knowledge with them?  I’m going to share it.  No matter what.  We should all want to help each other become better human beings, better husbands, better dads, better business people, better coaches, and on and on and on.  If you have something you can share with others to make them better people then you better do it.


There you have it.  My 10 filters that I’m going to use to make all of my decisions.  Remember though that family comes first.  Loved ones come first.  Spirituality comes first.  If at any time these ten things butt heads with Family, loved ones or your own spirituality then those that are close to you come first.  Don’t compromise on that.

Some projects may not help all of these things, but I am asking myself every time I’m asked to do something whether or not it enhances or helps one of these areas.  If not, I’m going to say no.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Filter

Celebrating 1 Year

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I may not make 500 words because I don’t have a lot of time.  We have been celebrating the gym being open for 1 year, and I have a 50K race to run tomorrow morning early.  I wanted to try to check in with as many words as possible.  Look at the awesome people in this picture.  I would say 95% of them are all Olive Branch CrossFit athletes if not all of them.

I don’t want anyone to take this the wrong way but when we had our “Grand Opening” event one year ago I remember being a little bummed out because not a whole lot of local people showed up.  Most of the people that came to our grand opening event were friends of mine and John’s from the local CrossFit community.  I had put a lot of effort into promoting the grand opening event and I honestly thought there would be a ton of local Olive Branch folks there.  Most of the people in this picture are members of our gym.  No effort to promote, just our 1 year celebration.

As I stood before this awesome group of people in this picture this morning I immediately felt a huge wave of emotion.  I had them all circle up in the gym.  I looked around from right to left as I got ready to “warm everybody up.”  It hit me that this is exactly what I wanted. I did not know probably 90% of the people in this picture one year ago.  I think we had more people in the gym today than we did at the grand opening, and most of them are members of the gym!  I got a little emotional before we started our warm up.  I thought about myself one year ago and all the things I was worried about.  I was worried that this wouldn’t work.  I was worried that I would have to go get another 9 to 5 job and wouldn’t be able to coach or wouldn’t be able to do the things I needed to do to make this gym successful.  I told the group today, if I could take a picture of everyone in the gym this morning and show it to myself one year ago it would have saved me TONS of anxiety and worry.  What I have learned is that we have a really great community growing here in Olive Branch, and I have nothing to worry about.

So, consider this post a HUGE thank you to all of our Olive Branch CrossFit athletes.  I am inspired by you every day.  Even if I don’t tell you or don’t get to talk to you every day for whatever reason, every one of you are an inspiration to me.  I was privileged to get to know a few of the morning athletes early on and we had some really good moments together.  Many of you participated in my own “therapy sessions.”  Especially at 5AM.  I have learned so much in the last year and have become a better coach and a better person.  I have learned how to start and run a business.  More importantly I have become part of the most awesome community I have ever been a part of.  Magic.

Celebrating 1 Year